[𝐃𝐚𝐲 𝟏𝟎] 𝐀 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐚 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐩 𝐌𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭⁣

𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝟸𝟷-𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘧 '𝘎𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘨', 𝘪.𝘦. 𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘦. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦

I could easily make this about me when really it’s about someone else. What they’re thinking about is not my business. I need to accept them and not take their lack of interest as a comment on me. Also, I can’t assume what’s happening now is going to be what happens forever. Maybe it’ll just define the hard patches. Maybe the hard patches will turn into something else. ⁣

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What else. Taking no bullshit is important. No one should tear you down a strip. But of, course, at some point, someone probably will, so learn to ask for politeness. This a good excuse to remap your boundaries and keep investigating your internal structure. Plus someone else will need that knowledge one day. We’re all just walking each other home.⁣
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There are people I now don’t get on with who I used to love, and people who I used to be scared of who are now friends. bell hooks explains this all better than me in her book 𝘈𝘭𝘭 𝘈𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘓𝘰𝘷𝘦. You really can’t tell how humanity is going to move around you and to assume you have all the answers is the height of arrogance. ⁣
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The old woman inside me says ‘𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘢𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦. 𝘔𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘺. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵. 𝘖𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘵. 𝘕𝘰 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘭𝘺. 𝘑𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨. 𝘓𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴. 𝘉𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦.’ ⁣

To your needs,

⁣Ellie.⁣

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⁣⁣⁣In part I'm writing this series to help launch my new book, ‘Becoming a Midwife: A Student’s Guide’. It's out 23/2/23. ⁣⁣

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