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I wrote last week about the likelihood of another advanced civilisation somewhere in the universeโ€™s past and how we donโ€™t have access to any of their music and poetry. How amazing would it be if we could find some of it? If we could compare their stuff and our stuff, we might come across some fundamental truths about the business of being alive. The ultimate cross reference.โฃ
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Iโ€™m of the opinion that people of different ages get access to different knowledge. We can do this cross-referencing by looking at our own lives. When I was 19, I thought that the labour ward looked like the inside of a submarine, with porthole windows on all the doors and no natural light. At age 33, I think the labour ward looks old and beaten up, but if weโ€™re overtly kind and respectful to people, none of that matters.โฃ
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Back when I was a student, one woman in my care was upset because she wanted to birth at the birth centre, and she couldnโ€™t because she had a low iron count. Talking to her in more detail, it wasnโ€™t that she was upset because she was worried about not having an active birth or having a cannula, it was just that we were going through a phase of having a shopping trolley in every labour room, so that we could take stuff to the postnatal ward easily. She hated the idea of giving birth with a shopping trolley in the room, it felt like it cheapened the experience.โฃ
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Today I wonder if we could have just...removed the shopping trolley. Put some music on. Turned the lights off and assisted her in making the room hers. What I learnt from being a student midwife: labour ward can be an alienating place; what I learned as a qualified midwife: if we listen to why we might have agency to fix that. Remembering what 19-year-old me thought is still very important because now Iโ€™m used to the labour ward, I donโ€™t even see my surroundings. Students and junior staff are so important for these reasons. They remind us of our culture, which becomes virtually invisible as we get more experienced.โฃ
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What set you on fire when you were young? What do you hold to be important now? If youโ€™ve got crossover, youโ€™ve struck gold.โฃ
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All my best,โฃ
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