Thanks so much for your anonymous question. It means a great deal to use that you're taking the time to share it and we hope we can help in the Secret Community.
If you are using this service as a BAME or LGBTQ+ person, please use the priority form here - please read the guidelines before you submit questions
This service has to be monitored so we'd appreciate it if you could manage our workload by not submitting questions about UCAS, the interview process, volunteering etc, that you could post in person - this is more for times where you absolutely wouldn't ask if the form didn't exist or where there's a need for clinical confidentiality. Having said that if you do have an application query that needs to be kept confidential (you have a criminal conviction, condition or simply can't ask something under your own name) we welcome and value your question as it may well help others
Questions from student or qualified midwives needing help and support are encouraged
It would be helpful to know what stage of training or how experienced you are when you post. Please read the guidelines below before submitting your question.
Life and clinical pressures mean it will sometimes take 48 hours for your question to be posted by a mod.
If you find your question has not been posted after this time, please carefully review our guidelines as we're a small team and sadly don't have the capacity to comment on why individual questions were declined. Please feel free to resubmit.
Our guidelines are:
1. Be Kind
'Always be kinder than necessary, everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about.’ This includes being kind in your question, especially around the midwifery practice of others.
2. Follow the NMC Code
i.e. confidentiality for clients and other professionals. You know this already 🙂
3. Don't ask for Medical or Parenting Advice
This includes pregnancy or postnatal advice for others. Discussions on midwifery guidelines or treatments are awesome but not for specific women or babies as we don’t have the capacity to screen for safety.
4. Don't ask for Interview Questions from Individual Universities
Instead, check out midwifediaries.com for example interview questions, personal statements and other free help.
5. Invite Everyone to the Party i.e. don't start posts with gendered language such as 'Hi ladies'. We love our LGBTQ, male, female and all other members.
6. 'THINK' before you submit.
Aim for positivity, we know it’s not all oxytocin hugs and cups of tea and cupcakes out there but come back to your love of women and the service as often as possible.
Is this True?
Is this Helpful?
Is this Inspiring?
Is this Necessary?
Is this Kind?
We look forward to reading your question, we know how crucial this service is as students and midwives having been in many sticky spots ourselves!